They aren’t there.
|Not the kind of poop painting I mean|
Your husband has sacrificed the joy of being there to see every waking moment of your child’s development to support your family so you can stay home, that is not likely something he wanted to do. While he may also miss the less pleasant moments like when your toddler painted a poop masterpiece the first time, that doesn’t make up for likely missing first steps, first words or first smiles.
They work hard too.
When your mate is just gone all day it can be hard to remember how hard he really does work. Maybe when he gets home he does do some remarkably dim things, such as telling you to take out the trash when he has two perfectly good hands and you’re cooking dinner, but it’s likely because he’s been on his feet all day and he’s freakin’ tired. You should understand that just as much as he should understand you work hard. Cut him some slack now and then.
It’s the same, but different.
Your job as a stay-at-home mom is stressful, tiring and can feel like an exercise in futility. Your husband’s job is also stressful, just in entirely different ways. It’s also tiring and likely involves doing the same thing every single day. While there are some serious differences in the challenges you both face and the type of work, it’s not as different as you think in the slip of things.
It’s not a vacation.
|Like sippin’ scotch on the beach..|
I know how it feels to want to go to work just to get out of the house and do something different, but
try to think back to what having a 9-5 job is like. It’s not a vacation. You get out, yes, but you’re still going to work, and if you go to work enough chances are you don’t want to be there anymore. Your husband likely views you getting to stay home and “play” with the kids just as enviously as you do his freedom of “employment.”
No matter what side of this common parenting arrangement you sit on, or if you’re a stay-at-home dad and your wife is the working-mom, a little perspective and empathy honestly does go a very long way.