Caring for a Toddler with Mouth Sores: A List of Foods and More

Hand, foot and mouth disease was something I had never even heard of. When my toddler suddenly had small pimple-like sores on his butt, I assumed it was just some sort of yeast-based diaper rash or another bane of his eczema. Later, when he complained his tongue hurt, and I found a mouth sore, I assumed he had a canker sore. On both counts I was wrong. My toddler had hand, foot, and mouth disease. Despite being called a “disease,” hand, foot and mouth is actually just a common childhood virus.toddler with mouth sores food list

While symptoms may vary, I learned when my second toddler began showing signs of this highly-contagious virus you’ll likely see red spots or fluid filled blisters on the hands, feet, and mouth — hence the name. A toddler with mouth sores from the virus will experience raw, painful marks much like canker sores.

Toddlers and infants also often get sores on their butts in the diaper region. Fever, irritability, loss of appetite, and fatigue are other common symptoms. Hand, foot and mouth is contagious only when sores are present and active, meaning they haven’t burst or begun to heal. Much like chicken pox, hand, foot, and mouth is generally a one-time type virus. As there are a few different strains, you can get it more than once, but never from the same strain.

Sadly, because hand, foot, and mouth is caused by a virus, it can’t be treated with medication directly. All you can do is treat the symptoms. The virus generally resolves itself in seven to ten days. However, even seven to ten days can be a long time with a whiny toddler with mouth sores who is in pain and may or may not be able to eat or drink comfortably. Fever and discomfort can benefit from a bit of Tylenol or ibuprofen, but the biggest issue I had was trying to find things my toddler could eat. This is what I learned…

Things to avoid for a toddler with mouth sores:

-Bottles: The sucking motion can be quite painful. On the upside, I used this opportunity to wean my toddler off the bottle at bedtime. Soft-nippled sippy cups seem to be OK.

-Spicy or acidic foods: If you’ve ever had a canker sore you can relate; acidic food in particular, such as citrus, is not recommended.

-Chewy or crunchy foods: Chewy foods tend to stick to the teeth, mingle with saliva and aggravate every sore in your toddler’s mouth. My toddler was particularly annoyed that eating candy hurt. Crunchy foods can scrape against sores causing bleeding or at the least, more pain.

Foods that are good for a toddler with mouth sores:

You want to aim for soft, easy-to-swallow foods that are neutral or base in nature. Dairy-based foods, for instance, are almost always neutral or base. Cold foods can also be very soothing. Here are some ideas to give you an idea of what works:

-Ice cream or Popsicles
-Yogurt or cottage cheese
-Jello or pudding
-Apple sauce
-Mashed potatoes
-Oatmeal
-Clam chowder
-Chicken or beef vegetable soup (do not use a tomato base)
-Seafood or chicken Alfredo, or any white-sauced pasta for that matter
-Macaroni and cheese

In the event your child’s mouth hurts so badly they simply won’t eat, push water. Dehydration is one of the biggest risks of hand, foot, and mouth and other conditions that cause mouth sores. I found my toddler handled milk well during the short period he wouldn’t eat. You can opt for Pediasure dietary supplements if your child will drink milk. They have a touch more sugar, so you may have to dilute them with regular milk, but they can help fill dietary holes from not being able to eat. Ovaltine or other milk-mix-ins may be another option to add some calories. Rest assured that your child won’t die or become skin and bones from a dramatically decreased diet a few days. As long as he or she is getting liquids and peeing regularly, everything should be fine.

Feel free to add your suggestions for a toddler with mouth sores in comment.

You also might want to give this little known complication of hand, foot, and mouth a read, I was pretty freaked out when my kid’s finger and toenails started falling off.

7 Things I Want My Kids to Know

Above all live with honor.
 
Honor isn’t something that belongs in fairy tales and books. It’s not a knight’s code in a silly sci-fi movie. Honor is doing what you know to be right even if everyone else is telling you it’s wrong. Honor is standing up for the little things in life no matter how small. It’s being strong even when you’re scared and always telling the truth even if it hurts. Honor is your heart, always follow it.

Never assume you know everything.
 
As long as you live you’ll never know everything worth knowing so never stop looking and learning. When you’re young the popular crowd may put up the perception that to be intelligent and care is nerdy or stupid, but someday they’ll regret it. Even the smallest decisions you make in life have the power to change everything. Be humble, seek wisdom, and never treat others in a way you wouldn’t wish to be treated.

Everyone has a lesson to teach.
 
There will be people in your life that you view as fools, remember that for every person there is someone else that thinks them foolish. You too are a fool if you fail to learn something from everyone whether they intentionally offer that lesson or not. Don’t ignore the opinions of young or old based on age, ugly or beautiful based on aesthetics, powerful or poor based on status. Under our chosen clothes and genetic skins we’re all just human.

Recognize that value isn’t monetary.
 
It’s easy to get caught up in money and status symbols, but when the world is dust and bones none of that will matter. Value the things in life that make you happy, let the things you need make you happiest, and your joy will always out shine your sorrow. Know that without sorrow you couldn’t know joy-embrace both to find equilibrium in your existence.

Nothing lasts forever.

Don’t hold grudges you wouldn’t take to the grave, because you might. The only thing you have to do in this life is die, the rest is choice so choose wisely, love truly, and don’t take advantage of the time you have and share with others.

Don’t forget where you stand.
 
The earth is our most precious resource. Don’t forget that your home is bigger than the stick construct you own or seek to own. If you expect it to last until the end of your residency, you better take care of it.

Someone loves you.
 
Finally, when your honor hazily fogs into arrogance and risk floats by in its wind, remember that someplace there is somebody who loves you; somebody that would suffer your loss. Take risk with caution, but don’t be so cautious as not to live.

Sick Kids: When to Keep a Child Home From School

Sometimes I consider going to medical school just to know what to do in every parental situation, until I remember medical school would cost more than my house, but man, would professional medical knowledge be helpful when you have a sick child who is school-age. Is a stuffy nose enough to keep a kid from class? Is it highly contagious? Will it get worse? Deciding whether or not to send a sick child to school is a tricky decision, especially with kids who may become skilled actors or actresses once they realize sick is a stay-home pass.

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Here we have a case of video game-itus

So, how can you tell if your child is too sick for school?

The test:

There isn’t a pass or fail test to know whether or not a child should be sent to school, but your parental intuition is a great tool. Observe your child before ever mentioning him/her staying home from school. Is his/her behavior normal? Generally a sickness worthy of bed rest is going to alter a child’s behavior in some way. He or she may be more lethargic, less talkative, irritable, etc. You know your child, that knowledge is better than a medical degree.

Watch out for:

Keep an eye out for:

-Fever above 100.4 degrees
-Difficulty breathing
-Vomiting
-Diarrhea that is beyond controllable soft bowel movements
-Ear pain

All of the above generally warrant keeping your child home from school no matter how they seem to be feeling. Whereas things like fatigue or a stuffy nose could last weeks and mean keeping your child out of school far longer than is plausible, the above symptoms usually pass quickly but are a sign of a more serious virus that would be seriously no fun in public and may even require medical attention.

Be kind, don’t share.

Also watch for signs of contagious conditions. For example, in a case of sore throat, a visual inspection could spot the tell-tale white patches of strep. A child with red itchy eyes that are producing heavy discharge could have pink eye. Rashes in particular should also be evaluated. Remain aware of common contagious conditions in children as well as any that may be going around your community. In the case of a possible-contagion beyond the common cold, even if your child seems fine, keep them home and call your doctor. Other parents and their kids will thank you.

No matter the situation, trust yourself and your gut feeling on how sick your child really is. Even if you are wrong a time or two and your child gets to spend a day home from school with mom or dad, oh well, better safe than sorry.