August 26, 2014 - Life with Gremlins

Debilitation: The Secret Downside to Breastfeeding

While I certainly wouldn’t consider it sufficient cause to lose the wealth of benefits breastfeeding offers your baby, there is an unspoken downside to breastfeeding, especially if you have a piglet on your hands. I had my third child on October 2, 2012, and until he was about 3 months old, I had become what you’d call a stationary feeding machine. My baby literally ate nearly constantly, except at night. He allowed me a good night’s sleep, at least.

What do I mean by debilitation caused by breastfeeding?

Of all the “mom struggles” out there, I’d say breastfeeding debilitation gets me the most. When breastfeeding you do have to sit down and feed your baby. At least for me, thanks to a very healthy eater, this leaves me sitting there staring at all the things I need to do, and have the motivation to do, that I can’t do, because I’m a human bottle. I’m certainly not saying I don’t enjoy the bonding experience that is breastfeeding, but when you have a baby that only takes short breaks from the boob you inevitably start to fall behind on the necessary evils of existence, like laundry and dishes, and are left helplessly watching as your work piles up. It’s extremely frustrating.

What can you do?

Nothing. It’s taken me three children to admit this, but there is honestly no answer unless you are talented enough to breastfeed while doing other things that aren’t done while sitting down. What I can recommend is you try not to focus on what you’re not getting done, and instead focus on what you are. You are improving your baby’s health. You are getting to enjoy one of the greatest joys in motherhood, and it will not last forever. Breast feeding debilitation is generally at its worst in the first three months of life. As your baby gets older, like my baby, he or she will begin eating less and have longer periods of active awake time, so try to enjoy all the snugly feeding time you can now.

It’s also possible you have what’s known as a comfort feeder, meaning sometimes your baby is nursing because he or she is actually hungry, and other times, because it’s comforting. If this is the case, you can attempt removing your baby from your breast when he or she has slowed down nursing and is only intermittently suckling. You may have luck using a pacifier in this instance as well, if you choose to use one. Some mothers also opt to supplement with formula for a feeding or two a day, so they can keep up with daily needs or pump and store breast milk for this purpose. If you choose any sort of artificial nipple be sure breastfeeding is properly established to avoid nipple confusion.

Storing Breast Milk: A Complete Guide to Breast Milk Storage

Storing breast milk can eliminate one of the few perceived disadvantages of breast feeding, restriction. While a bottle-fed baby can be left with another family member while you’re free to do other things, a breast fed baby is tied to the breast, literally. By pumping, storing, and then bottling breast milk, your breast fed baby can be bottle fed. This is especially helpful for travel, work, attempting to increase breast milk supply, and/or any other situation that requires breast milk without your breast present.

This simple step-by-step guide on storing breast milk will cover the safety precautions, do’s and don’ts of, and the process of storing breast milk for later use.

Refrigeration of breast milk:

For short term storage of breast milk, refrigeration is the best route to take. Breast milk does need to be kept cold or like cow’s milk it will spoil. Breast milk does, however, spoil less quickly than regular milk due to the antibodies that are present within it. These same antibodies are what make breast milk so healthy for your baby.

Breast milk will keep three to four hours at room temperature and three to five days in the refrigerator. If you aren’t sure you’ll use the milk in this time period, it should be frozen.

Storing breast milk in the refrigerator:

-Pump and label the milk with a clear date including day, month, and year.

Once pumped, breast milk should be stored in sterile, air-tight containers. To prevent waste, use containers the average size of one feeding for your baby. This is typically two to four ounces.

-Place in refrigerator kept within the temperature ranges of 32 F to 39F (0-3.9 C)

Don’t keep over five days at the most.

Freezing breast milk:

Freezing breast milk allows for longer-term storage and bulk reserves. This is useful in the event you become ill or require medication unsafe for breast feeding, because a stock pile of milk in the freezer allows breast feeding to continue safely during this time. As a note, if you will be feeding stored milk rather than breast feeding for any extended amount of time you will need to continue to pump and dump to retain milk supply.

Freezing breast milk does destroy a certain amount of the antibodies within the milk, however, it’s still healthier than formula. Frozen breast milk will keep up to even a year if kept in the proper temperature range.

Storing breast milk in the freezer.

-Pump and label milk with a clear date.
When packaging breast milk for freezing be sure to leave some room at the top of the container as frozen liquids expand. You may find bags more convenient than plastic tubes, because they stack easily and are less prone to crack.

-Store the milk in the following temperature ranges for desired store times.

*Two to four weeks: Can be kept in a freezer compartment within the refrigerator that has a temperature below 32 F.

*Three to four months: Can be kept in a freezer unit connected to a refrigerator with a temperature range below 0 F.

*Six months to one year: Must be stored in deep freeze. Temperature should remain below -19 F. Do not store in door.

Stored breast milk will have a different appearance than fresh milk. This is normal. The milk will separate and have layers. Thawed milk also sometimes tastes or smells soapy. This is due to the break down of fats and is also normal. Most babies don’t mind this. If milk smells rancid or you question whether its good, it’s better to throw it away.

Re-heating Breast Milk:

Frozen milk is best pulled 24 hours in advance and left to thaw in the refrigerator. It can also be run under warm water to decrease thaw time.

Breast milk shouldn’t be reheated in the microwave. This is not only because the heating destroys some nutritional content of the milk, but because it creates hot spots and heats the milk unevenly. You can use a breast-milk warmer or simply warm some water on the stove and place the bottle within it to reheat the milk. Don’t bring breast milk up to the boiling point. Always be sure to test the temperature of the milk on the underside of your wrist before feeding it to your baby.

After the initial re-heating any remaining breast milk can be kept in the refrigerator for no longer than twenty four hours, it shouldn’t be refrozen and should be thrown away after the 24-hour mark.

What to Do when Your Teen Lies to You

Certainly, we all hope we’ve raised out kids with the moral worth to always tell the truth, but here in reality, lies happen. Teen lies happen even more often thanks to the teen years being such a rebellious and confusing time in life. The question is, how can you as a parent handle teen lies when they happen?

Acknowledge teen lies:

The first thing you should do when you realize your teen has been lying to you is to acknowledge the lie and let your teen know that you know. This opens the door for communication on their end. You’re giving them that get out of jail card to come clean. It’s important not to go into this conversation with threats of punishment, rather concern. If you open the conversation with something like, “I know what you did and now your going to pay for it.” You aren’t really saying, “Hey, talk to me, be open with me, and help me understand why you did this.”

Communicate:

Communication is especially important at this point. Find out why your teen felt they needed to lie to you in the first place, and try to help them move beyond the mistrust and secrecy. Avoid demanding your teen tell you anything. If you try to force a teen, or anyone else for that matter, to open up to you they likely won’t. Simply be there, be open, and be understanding. Understand that this whole process may take time.

Address Teen lies:

Once and if your teen has come clean, so to speak, it’s important to address the lie and why lying is never the best course of action, but not necessarily punish it the first time. Let your teen know the same way you would an adult why the lie hurt or angered you. Being open with your teen and treating them as the mature adult they are becoming will help ease tension and restore trust.

However, even adults have consequences for their actions and you are a parent, not just a friend. If lying continues after these three steps have been taken, try not to become angry and “lock your teen up” for their actions, but continue to express your feelings towards the lying and give reasoning behind them while adding in some form of punishment. Note that the consequences would have been less severe, or even non-existent, had there not been a lie involved reminding that you excused the first offense. The old “because I said so” explanation never does anyone any good. Be specific.

Take comfort that like most things in a teens life lying is often a stage. Some day you will have standing before you an amazing man or woman and all these small trying times will be distant memories to look back on and laugh.