Toddler

Why Does My Child Get Hyper After Eating?

The expectation that children bounce off the walls after eating sugar is not an uncommon. However, it’s actually based on a myth. Sugar alone does not cause hyperactivity. Nonetheless, after every meal, my toddlers wind up and shoot off into an at least half-hour hyper-fest, whether that meal includes sugar or not, making the first question that needs addressed: Why would eating cause my child to become hyper? The answer to said question should offer insight into how to reduce hyperactivity in children after eating.hyper after eating

Why do kids get hyper after eating?

Sugar itself may not make kids hyper, but blood sugar changes can affect energy levels. For example, if your toddler eats simple carbohydrates, which are found in foods such as fruit, white rice, and yes, candy, he or she will get a fast blood sugar boost which will in turn increase energy levels temporarily before allowing them to crash. Any food that contains carbohydrates can have this effect, though complex carbohydrates, such as those found in vegetables and whole grains, generally have a less hyper-inducing effect. Nearly all the meals you’re serving likely contain carbs. This may make it seem as if the eating is causing your child to become hyper, but really it’s the carbohydrates energizing your child’s body.

In addition, additives like food preservatives and food dyes may also cause hyperactivity in children. Several well-regarded studies have found this to be true, though it should be noted other studies have shown it to be false.

OK, then what can you do to reduce hyperactivity after meals?

Unfortunately, there isn’t that much you can do beyond offering well-balanced meals in regards to carbs. To balance carbs, you need to have ample protein in your meals. For instance, feeding your toddler toast with jam for breakfast should result in a fairly hyper reaction, while the same meal with some bacon or sausage added should result in a less-extreme energy spike.

You may also try reducing food additives and dyes in your child’s diet. Such things are found in unexpected places. Most boxed mac ‘n cheese, for example, contains both.

If you notice extreme highs followed by equally extreme lows, as well as other signs of blood-sugar imbalance, such as irritability, sluggishness, or depression in the morning or after long periods without food, your child may actually have a blood sugar issue. You should seek out a pediatrician for advice.

Does your child get hyper after eating?

Define Discipline vs Abuse: A Mom’s Perspective

I’ve been called a softy in the discipline realm quite a few times, but it still continually surprises me how one parent can define discipline vs another’s abuse and vice versa. Toddlers being so defiant, stubborn, and a bit developmentally prone to be slow to pick up the rules, seem to be a major target for abusive punishments. So, if you ask me, as a mom of four who exemplify the word “gremlin,” what is the difference between discipline and abuse?define discipline vs abuse

 

Lasting marks
Any form of discipline that leaves lasting marks is abuse. I don’t care if you hit your child with your hand or a firm pillow, if there was a mark that didn’t quickly fade it was abuse. I’m not anti-spanking. I do spank my toddlers in cases of extreme danger and importance. Sometimes, they even have a little red mark afterwards thanks to some seriously pale skin, but those marks are never still there within 10 minutes. Beyond lasting marks, if it could cause any injury what-so-ever, it is abuse.

Risk of death
I also support creative punishment. I’m a punishment-fits-the-crime sort of mom. I go easy on that type of stuff at the moment, because toddlers don’t often grasp the lesson, but as they get older, heck yes. However, there is a big difference between creative and abusive. If your “creative” punishment holds a risk of death to your child, it is abuse, not discipline, no matter what you called it.

Emotionally harmful
Finally, if it’s used for soldiers, don’t use it on your child, please. Your child is not an adult preparing to go to war. Things like cold showers have no logical place in disciplining a child. For a punishment to fit the crime, it must also have some logical tie to the behavior. Choosing random things like 50 laps for not picking up your toys doesn’t fit the crime. I realize that my final category seems broad. Many may argue a simple slap on the rump can cause “emotional” harm. What I would suggest is putting yourself in that child’s shoes. If as a child what you are about to do would stick in your mind and have a negative emotional effect on you, don’t do it to your child, whether it actually was done to you or not. Also, keep in mind that your words can often hurt more than you know-watch what you say. Always focus on the act, not the child.

I Spank My Toddlers and I’m Still a Great Mom: This is How

Surprisingly, of all the hotly debated parenting topics, spanking takes the cake. It’s not very good cake either. The fact is, while both sides may have scientific sprinkles on their piece, neither side has enough. Parents, non-parents, and the bakers themselves could argue until they were sick, but in the end, no one would be “right,” in the justified, 100%, indisputable way required to call someone else a bad parent, and not just end up sounding like an ass. Personally, when my cake doesn’t have enough sprinkles, I opt for a brownie. OK, maybe I’m just hungry and you can forget the baked-goods analogy here, but the point is, I spank, and I’m still an awesome mom with remarkable kids.

This is how.

Finding a middle ground:

It’s beyond me why in regards to spanking parents feel you must always spank or you must never ever spank, as if you may spontaneously combust if you veer from the typical disciplinary styles some likely over-priced parenting book presents. I spank my toddlers, just like my parents did me, but not as a regular form of discipline. Spanking is reserved for misdeeds that could result in injury or death to my children or someone else. Spanking means this is serious, you-don’t-do-that-ever-again business. My kids know if they are getting spanked, what they did was not OK in any way, shape or form, ever. They are never spanked without explanation. All forms of discipline come with a verbal conversation about what was done, and why it was wrong. Spanking is never hard enough to leave physical marks, and always done with the hand. It’s shock factor, not pain.

Why it’s good to be the middle mom or dad:

The advantage of playing the middle man is you get the best of both sides — you get all sprinkles.

The main issue with never spanking is what are you going to do when your toddler decides time-outs don’t matter, challenges your authority and starts doing things more dangerous than just not picking up his/her toys? When he/she is running into the street or repeatedly hits a playmate in the face with a toy on purpose? You don’t have a last resort, a harmless way to shock-the-holy-living-misbehaving out of your toddler. Those who don’t ever choose to show their children they are, in fact, the boss, may find they aren’t always the boss. In most cases, after you’ve spanked once, the mere threat can stop dangerous behavior.

The main issue with always spanking, for everything from not eating at dinner to playing with knives, is your child may learn violence is the answer to all life’s problems. He/she may begin to believe the person that hits the hardest makes the rules and might just start hitting back. Worse, by overusing spanking, you eliminate its effectiveness. If you had cake every single day, cake would no longer be a treat. In the same sense, if you spank all the time, it’s routine, ordinary, and no longer shocking.

In either case, spanking older children is unnecessary. Toddlers sometimes need shock-value discipline. They lack the reasoning skills and memory to understand and remember when something is dangerous; the spanking stands as a strong deterrent, while the explanation builds the know-how, which later prevents the act when the child is older.

It’s also important to note that there is a big difference between spanking and abuse.